There’s a saying that 10% of life is what happens to you, and how you deal with it is 90%. Dealing with disappointments at work is a major example of how overcoming the obstacle is more important than the obstacle itself. Possibly the project you’ve been working on for months suddenly got canceled; Perhaps you didn’t get the promotion you really wanted, or maybe your closest friend at work took a job elsewhere.
No such person expects another person to bounce back from disappointments. Some people can handle tough emotions than the others. People deal with emotions differently, especially if those emotions are triggered. Professional disappointments are still disappointments, dealing with them appropriately is essential for future success.
We never expect bad news to come so quickly, and it is easy to smash out at the person who delivers that bad news. You can always resist to temptation. Do not be aggressive and do not engage yourself in backbiting. That behavior is unproductive. It can also limit your career growth. There’s a saying that “To disagree, one doesn’t have to be disagreeable”. This means that you are very controlled on your emotions. You can hold a different opinion from someone else without hard feelings.
Being respectful is the most important thing. We cannot build walls between people just because of disagreement. Never attack other person and never underestimate. If you are planning to attack anything, make sure that you are just attacking the ideas. Don’t make it personal.
If you are really good at hiding emotions, join the World poker tour, you can earn a lot of money because of that. But, for the rest of us, disappointments easily shows on our face. Like the tone of our voices, how we talk or even how we walk.
Try to be honest about it because people can see that you are disappointed. If you are not comfortable sharing your disappointments in details then don’t. However, respond to appropriate questions with openness and grace. If you can’t answer the question speak up, it is better to be honest than making up an answer. People will see if you are bluffing your response because your words and your character doesn’t match. Because of that, your colleagues will trust you less.
DO NOT MAKE RECKLESS DECISIONS
Having reckless decisions is very similar to reckless lashing out at others. Our emotions and tempers are triggered and heightened. Do not let your emotions take over and dictate your behavior. It may seem very easy to attack someone who caused the disappointment, but doing that will not make you feel better. You are not in the right state of mind to make decisions. You have to cool down before making any big decisions.
GET OVER IT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
Moving on depends on how damaged the disappointment is. It can take a lot of time, or even a little to get over it. If your money is not enough for a particular project, maybe it’s a minor disappointment. If you think that someone’s promotion is not well deserved because you think you are more deserving, then it’s a major disappointment.
Try to get over the disappointment as soon as possible. You have to admit that you cannot change the situation. Move on with your life and cope with the situation. Show resiliency.
Don’t stay on the dumps because people will you pull you down. Your colleagues expect a bit of sadness, and a perceptive boss expects minor, temporary dips in employee engagement and productivity. You can seek Professional help if you cannot move on with the disappointment. You don’t have to be ashamed in asking help when you need it.
DECIDING WHAT TO DO NEXT
There are different kinds of disappointments. Some of them are easy to process and easy to get over. Some are not. If you have to deal with the hardest disappointment, you have to think hard and decide what to do next, think twice. Don’t make rash decisions.
Maybe the disappointment takes a little time to get over, but in the end, you may need to find another job. Only you can decide on what you are going to do next. You can take an advice from the one you truly trust and make the best decisions given the information that you have.